Recently, someone told me not to stress! I kind of agree. There’s no point in stressing out about something if you can’t change it, and if something does stress you out, do something about it! I guess I’ve been putting too many expectations on myself (bad habit I’ve developed)
So now! I will try to find a balance! Stress out when necessary, and do something about it! Buy don’t overstress to the point of being on edge all the time!
I think leadership helps me. Even though it might seem like I’m stressig out about it, I really enjoy it! Seeing people be proud of their accomplishments makes me proud of them! Watching people grow makes me proud of them and makes me want to grow too! :D
Thanks to everyone or their input (: I’ll be working on it wheeeee!
I had an experience over the past few days where I really needed my friends! It was nice to know that they were there to support me, in their own way.
It prompted me to think about charisma, and what draws people to charismatic leader. I feel like one of basic needs that we have is the need to have support, and feel cared about. Everyone shows their love and appreciation in their own way.
Anywhoses! What does that hve to do with charisma? Well. I think people are more attracted to people who can offer them support! Maxwell says to “put a Ten on everyones head” and I think being there for people is one of the ways to let people know you care!
I’m not saying you have to be there all the time, but when anyone needs someone to talk to, I’m going to try to be all ears! I guess even the small things like listening can help build charisma too!
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Some songs always make me feel nostalgic. I have pretty mixed feelings about it, a combination of missing the old times while enjoying the memory of them. It’s strange to feel happy but sad at the same time.
I guess the nostalgic feeling is a reminder that you can never go back to the past, but at least you can revisit them in your head!
Suddenly I feel grateful to have all these memories and people to share then with! Thanks everyone for making my experiences worth remembering (:
So two things were brought up to me by people today!
I realized that “loving life” doesn’t mean being happy ALL the time, but understanding that you appreciate what you have. So: just sayin, it’s okay to be frustrated, tired, and sad about life, because it’s insanely difficult to be happy all the time. But some time afterwards, come out with the understanding that you’re going to be okay. I think lately I’ve been stressed and kind of forced myself to be happy, but now I’m’ trying to just make myself happy by hanging out with people who make me happy! :D (sorry if that was confusing)
also, my friend Rosemary brought up to me that you can still be the best at everything and not be prideful. I think the way she put it was that the edge that you get by trying to be the best is what moves you into action. And I completely agree! I didn’t mean it in that way. SHO. Not being prideful: being humble about my accomplishments and understanding that I can still improve.
“Good, better, best. Never stop until your good gets better, and your better becomes best.”
The stuff I post are my personal reflections! I’m not judging people who don’t feel or think the same way! Everyone has their own ideals! Just sayin, Im not thinking any less of anyone (:
It seemed like the week went by so fast! Good weekend though! (: !
The trait this week is Charisma. Maxwell defines Charisma as the ability to draw people to you, and also believes that charisma is not something innate, but developed. I agree! But I also think charisma also means moving people into action; not only draw people to you, but move people!
Maxwell outlines his 4 points to developing charisma, which I hope to improve on this week! :D Here’s my interpretation.
1. Love Life
Basically, love where you are! Be passionate about what you do, and do everything all out. If you’re doing something that you have no choice in doing, might as well enjoy it, right? No one wants to follow someone who’s hopeless or a downer. Charismatic leaders will enjoy what they’re doing.
2. Put a “10” on every person’s head.
Basically make people feel good about themselves! I’m not saying you should lie to people and tell them they’re good at something when they’re not, but let them know that you DO recognize their good qualities, their effort, and their commitment. Let people know that they’re appreciated.
3. Give People Hope
People who have something that they hope to achieve will be spurred into action. The best leaders will give others hope, and inspire them! :D
4. Share Yourself
Good leaders are easy to relate to, not infallible! Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s how you react to those mistakes that shows your character (Week 1 baby!) By sharing your experiences with others, it helps! Personally, I feel loads better when I realize that I’m not the only one that struggles, not the only one that’s having a hard time, and not the first person to feel a certain way.
The bottom line for charisma according to Maxwell? Other-mindedness. Charismatic leaders will make the people around them feel cared about. I think this is the most important point he makes. When people encourage me, I feel more motivated to not dissappoint them! Not only that, I feel like someone believes in me.
When I was a kid, everything was “expected” of me. It was a no brainer to get good grades, be a good kid, respect my parents. I got pissed when my brother got a “most improved conduct” award and was praised for it, when I had always had good conduct and didn’t get shit. >____> (5th grade unamused face)! I guess I realize now that having someone recognize you is really important! (and even if no one does, at least YOU know that you’re doing great!)
Goals for this week!
1. Appreciate people more, and show it!
2. Be less prideful, I don’t need to be the best at everything.
3. Love Life more! No more grumpy moments! Embrace life, and if it sucks, work towards making it better!
4. Focus on others! Try to share myself while not making myself the center of attention! Think about others first.
5. BE HUMBLE. You only get to be the Eternal Master of the Universe in Emily’s cell phone contacts.
PUMPED FOR THIS WEEK CUZ I FELT LIKE LAST WEEK WAS A GOOD START! :D
“How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you.”
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So! This entire week I’ve been thinking about character, and I came up with some interesting thoughts and pitfalls!
First off, I was thinking that having a good character includes having integrity, one definition that I’ve learned is that integrity is “doing the right thing when no one is looking” and I definitely agree with that! I feel like the world I’m living in right now makes it pretty damn easy to just be lazy or cheat or the like, but I think it’s something to be avoided!
Upon further reflection, I think the reason I want to develop and build up my character is so that I can be satisfied with myself; to know that what I’ve done, I’ve managed to do cleanly, with nothing to mar the experience. To know that I can achieve things the legitimate way, to know that I don’t need to cheat to succeed.
Of course, I’m not always conscious of the things that I do! Situation came up where I copied my friends homework, and I didn’t realize what I had done until I already submitted it. ):! I guess it’s important to protect yourself from situations that will make it easy to lose sight of your values!
Which brings me to my next point! It’s shows even more about your character when you do the right thing when people ARE watching. Sometimes it’s easier just to go with the flow, but hey, where’s the fun in that! :D I feel like I try to avoid conflict without realizing that one of the best ways to grow is through conflict. HM. food for thought for me!
In the end, I feel like character is something that allows you to become the person other people want to follow. I’m hoping that I can become the type of person that I would want to follow. If I can believe in myself, then others will too! If i can have integrity and character, then hopefully the people around me will too! (not that they don’t already, just sayin’ yo)
Interesting week, I’m glad that I was more conscious about the things that I’ve done! Still trying to keep responsible for everything that I said I’d do! (:
Maxwell talks about having Character in the very first chapter of his book. He throws around lots of nice words like reliability, and integrity, and I feel like he gets down to the roots of the matter of leadership when it comes to Character.
People will want to follow someone who they know are trustworthy. Something that I’ll be observing this week is if my words and actions match up. One key selling point on someones character is to check if what they say and what they do are the same.
One of my favorite portions of the chapter is where Maxwell says “Talent is a Gift, but Character is a choice”. I find this to be so true! :D No matter what station in life you are, or what you have at any given moment, your decisions will always define who you are, and as you make decisions every day, you build up your character.
Finally, “a leader not only stays above the line between right and wrong, he stays well clear of ‘gray areas’”. Leaders should always have the qualities of being accountable, reliable, and unwavering in their beliefs.
Gotta work on that!
Goals for the week:
Be accountable for what I say I will do.
Make decisions that will help me build my character.
Make a plan that will prevent me from making the same mistakes again.
:D! Hope this goes well!